One of the lamest things I ever did to myself on this journey was act like I knew it all.
Having had my ass kicked so many times, I got pretty self-righteous in my negative, limiting beliefs.
If someone offered me a positive notion even remotely outside of the neat and tidy, negative walls I tried to put around my journey, I would roll my eyes.
I'd politely smile and hiss under my breath, "Pollyanna, tree-hugging, dreamer!"
What the hell did they know anyway?
Didn't they get the memo?
I was old.
Less of a woman.
Yep, I judged myself and others with aplomb.
On top of all that, I flogged myself with one of the most toxic beliefs any of us could possibly hold on this journey:
If it was going to happen, it would have happened by now.
That hubris right there? It could have cost me my son.
I shudder to think I even uttered that crazy shit.
Talk about limiting beliefs!
Who the hell did I think I was to put a time limit on Divine Timing?
I have mad compassion for the fearful, heartbroken woman I was back then.
That version of me was in so much pain, it felt safer to make short-sighted proclamations about time and give up on myself, than take another "risky" step forward.
The real risk, however, was in holding onto that ridiculous limiting belief about time.
If I hadn't pulled my head out of my ass, that toxic belief could have cost me my boy.
Being a "know-it-all" about time almost caused me to turn my back on him.
When I look at his face, my heart breaks at the thought of ever giving up on him.
Asher and the Universe had a much better plan than I ever did.
As much as I cried for him all those years ago, I can see that he came at the absolute perfect time--it still blows my mind.
Love, if you are holding on to this toxic belief about time, I invite you to toss that turd.
We think we know it all when it comes to time, but we don't.
Love and trust yourself enough to know that your baby, like mine, will come right on time.
My ladies toss out toxic beliefs about time.
They respect it enough to not squander it, but they trust themselves enough to not be a slave to it, knowing that when it comes to their babies, there's no time like Divine Time.
Decide you will be one of them.
Change your mindset, change your results.
P.S. We are gleefully celebrating 7 miracle pregnancies in 86 days in my coaching practice. My ladies are on fire! What you think and believe truly matters love--can't wait for you to join them. xoxo
Intrigued? Here's an exercise to take this to the next level...
Call out your limiting beliefs about time.
Are you stuck telling yourself that if it was going to happen, it would have happened by now?
Ok Nostradamus! It's time to uplevel your thinking, shall we?
Make a list of things that happened outside of your "perfect" timeline that were, in fact, perfect!
What do these things teach you about divine timing? How can you use this evidence to support the notion and TRUTH that your baby will come at the perfect time? How much different would you feel if you let go of your death grip on "when?"
On a scale of 1-10 what would your stress level be?
Stretch yourself! It's about progress, not perfection.