An empowered way to look at your pain

As I write this, I can still see and smell the smoke that has inundated where I live in Northern California wine country.

The community I know has been devastated.

Many lives were lost.

Places I loved were burnt to the ground.

The courthouse where I made my career as a prosecutor was shut down for the better part of a week.

Only now are people I know and love beginning to fully fathom what has happened.

Amongst the heartbreak and loss however, there have been shining lights of humanity, bravery, and heroism.

The resilience and determination to rebuild and rise again is a testament to the human spirit.

While I am sure you may have heard about this on the news, I am sharing this with you because there is a lesson in it for you and your fertility journey.

The sentiment is best expressed by the Persian poet Rumi:

“The wound is where the light enters you.”

This week, I invite you allow your biggest wounds to be your most brilliant source of light.

Use your wounds to ask better questions–instead of “why me,” ask, “How is this happening FOR me?”

When you can see your wounds in this way, you can use them to light the way on even your darkest days.

My ladies let the light in.

They honor the wounds they have sustained on their journeys, by allowing those places to not only heal, but grow stronger than ever.

Decide you will be one of them.

Change your mindset, change your results.



Intrigued? Here’s an exercise to take this to the next level…

Apply the wisdom of an 800 year old Persian Poet.

Let one a wound be where the light comes in.

Pick a wound, any wound. I strongly suggest you start with a smaller one, then work your way up.

Get out a piece of paper.

State the specific wound. Acknowledge the pain it caused. Write out how you can let light in through that wound. What is the specific light it allows. How can you grow stronger in that place than ever before?


Stretch yourself. Remember, it’s about progress, NOT perfection.

Rosanne offers a variety of programs to help you on your fertility journey — from Self-study, to Live, to Private Coaching.