EP136 Fertility Success Principle #7

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Hey Gorgeous, if you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve got to have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, fertility mindset master, former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist.

I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43. Despite years of fertility treatment failure, I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine badassery, and loads of hell Yes.

For your fertility journey. It’s time to get fearless, baby fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, episode 136. Fertility Success Principle number seven. Hey mama this week I’ve got another fertility success principle for you. I love these episodes because we get down to the nitty gritty about what truly distinguishes women who go the distance on this journey.

And if you haven’t listened to the previous six success principle episodes, you are going to want to scroll back through the list and listen to every single one of them. It’s incredible when you start putting all of the pieces of the puzzle together. What you’re gonna start to see. If there is a wet noodle snowflake, everybody’s supposed to win, that’s not fair, saboteur going off in your head about the idea that there’s something quote unquote different about women who beat the odds, let’s take a moment to get some shit straight.

Different does not mean better. It isn’t a judgment about any woman’s worth or worthiness. Nor is any of this an accusation. It’s simply priceless fucking awareness. Don’t you want to know what actually makes women successful on this journey? And if you could gain an edge on making your dreams come true, Wouldn’t you want to have it?

Yeah. Thought so. I’m taking the time to call this bugaboo out because over the past 10 years of study and coaching women to success on this journey, I’ve seen a lot of women try and dim their light and sabotage their own success in order to be like everyone else, to not stand out, to not be difficult or quote unquote demanding.

To not ruffle feathers or make other people uncomfortable. The impulse comes from a good place. When it comes to your results and the responsibility you have to you and this baby, all of that cray? It’s a waste of time and precious energy. You’ve got to stay in your own fucking lane, mama. Your dreams are your business.

What other people think about you and the way you do you doesn’t matter one bit. We are conditioned and manipulated to think otherwise. But at the end of the day, you have a choice to make. Stay focused on your business, or get caught up in the shit that has nothing to do with you. Wise women choose the former.

No judgment, no lack of compassion. Simply focus. On what you are being called to do in this life. This is why I come at you in the way that I do. Direct. I serve women who are more committed to bringing their dreams to fruition than their excuses, fear, or victimhood. It’s just that simple. Coddling you or telling you that everything’s gonna be okay if you just stay at a low vibrational place without giving you Real shit from the trenches that is actually going to help you do what you need to do to be successful on this journey is a dis fucking service.

I know that this level of direct communication on the subject of success on this journey may rub some the wrong way, but shit, life is way too fucking short. To beat around the bush. This is why women who are committed to success come to me. This is why they listen to this podcast. The ability to take a lovingly clear look at yourself, level up shit that’s not working, and ask for help when the myth of DIY has run its course is a gangster move.

This way of being, I get it, it’s not for everyone, but everyone who has succeeded on this journey did it in one way or another. There’s no cutting corners, which is why I’m sharing this shit. This is why the success principle I want to share with you today Trust yourself. Women who beat the odds on this journey unquestionably and consistently trust themselves.

Trusting yourself doesn’t mean you aren’t scared or that you’re perfect. It means that no matter what you believe, you are going to make the right decision for you with the information you have. The kind of trust I’m talking about isn’t conditioned upon your results. It’s about a deep and abiding conviction in your ability to figure shit out when it shows up.

Because as we all know, shit gonna show up. That’s not negative, it’s just reality. That doesn’t mean that the shit that shows up is all bad. It’s not. It’s just an invitation to grow, learn, and expand. That is a huge paradigm shift for most people. But it’s true. The thing about women who trust themselves is there’s an ease about them.

They know what’s true for them and they act on it. It’s not always elegant, but it is steady. This is the woman who takes risks from a place of abundance. She believes that what is inside of her is good. And whatever is driving her to take the next step will reveal solutions and opportunities along the way.

This trust does not require her to ask the opinion of 50 other people before she makes a fucking decision. Because she realizes that’s just a distraction. This woman who trusts herself is more concerned with what she thinks than what anyone else thinks. Because there is an inherent emotional maturity that comes from the kind of trust I’m talking about.

She’s not bitter, nor is she a blamer. She takes responsibility for herself and believes in self. Now, I know that this may seem like I’m painting the picture of the perfect woman, but frankly, as I said, perfection is not required here. It is simply a willingness to put faith in you, to trust you in an unconditional way.

And even if you fuck shit up, you fall, you’re like on the way down, you’re saying, Oh, all right, sister, we’re going to figure this out. You and me, me and you, we’re doing this. This trust in yourself is something that as in any relationship is built over time and is cultivated with consistency. It is something that requires demonstration.

Think about the way we build trust in any relationship. It’s about keeping your word. Doing what you say you’re going to do. Backing your own plays. When you trust yourself, the game changes completely. You don’t need anyone’s permission or buy in. It’s awesome to have the support of others. But it’s not required.

This trust breeds confidence. The kind of confidence that’s bulletproof, unshakable, and is not built on bravado. Because that shit, that fake confidence, you can see right through that. It’s a facade. That is not what I’m talking about. The confidence I’m talking about is deeply rooted, not fleeting, nor superficial.

It’s a feeling down to the core of your being, that not only are you good, but that you will be good, no matter what. This trust doesn’t make successful women necessarily brash. Whether this trust is bold and outspoken, or quiet. There is no mistaking it. The woman who trusts herself, this is a woman who has the guts to dance to the beat of her own drum.

Again, she is not perfect. She’d be the first to admit that. But perfection is not required in her world. Her faith in herself and the call in her heart to be a mom is not based in the need to please others. It’s about having no regret. It’s about continuing to say yes when everyone else is saying no.

It’s about being willing to endure the ridicule of others. It’s about choosing herself and the mission Gus, God Universe’s source, gave her, no matter how sketchy shit gets. Her trust is not conditional. It’s committed. In fact, it’s the most committed relationship she’s in. When I think of all the women I’ve served, the women with the guts to stand up against the tyranny of statistics, naysayers, and conventional wisdom, and I say that with giant quotes around that, or even the sheep, every single one of them had this In them.

Indeed, it was manifest in many different ways and didn’t outwardly look the same in each woman, which is exactly how I could tell it was authentic. There is a moment as an observer and as a woman who trusts herself when you can see that quality in other women. And it’s, it’s patent. It’s patent. You, you can see it from a mile away.

And this trust, most importantly, extends to the woman’s trust in her hell yes. It is a magnificent sight to see. My sincere prayer for you as you’re listening to the success principle is that you will see it. in you. I think you’ve probably seen glimpses of it, but I hope and pray that one day it will be a steady part of your vision.

Always there. Always there. Because it changes everything. Everything. Everything. For so many years on my own journey, I did not trust myself. I felt unqualified, unworthy, and strangely uninformed. It didn’t matter how many degrees I had, nor how much of an assassin I was in the courtroom. At the end of the day, those were other people’s measures of trust, other people’s measures of worthiness.

It wasn’t until I trusted me and my choices on all levels, personal, financial, in my relationships, in the way I chose and enforced boundaries. In my faith that the pathway to my boy became clear this trust is what gave me the courage to walk away from treatment to see that just because treatment didn’t work for me, that there was no other way that my boy would come.

I had to see beyond that. I had to trust bigger. I had to trust that he would find a way and that I would meet him there. I had to trust myself, my body, And my baby. I think you’ve heard me say that before. Love, you are made in the image of the divine. It’s time to trust yourself. And here’s an exercise to take what I’ve shared with you to the next level.

Build trust in yourself. Step one, ask yourself, straight up, no holding back, do you trust yourself? Now, sit with that question. You might trust yourself AF at work, um, you know, with simple tasks, things like that. But do you trust yourself? Do you trust what’s in your heart? Be honest, because as intelligent women, we have a very interesting way of bifurcating these things.

We compartmentalize our trust. And there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s just not what we’re aiming for here. We’re looking at full and complete trust that, Hey, if you walk into a ceramics class for the first fucking time that like, you’re like, look, I don’t know shit about shit here, but I know I’m going to figure this out.

Or, you know, you’re taking your first flying lesson, you may scared, be scared shitless and say, you know what, I’m gonna fucking figure this out, you know, do you trust yourself and all you have to do is go back to the most recent decision and really pick that apart, you know, if you happen to have made a decision on your journey recently, what, you know, were you only able to come to that decision after 50 hours of agonizing and and reviewing 5000 pages of statistics when you You could have just trusted your instinct and said, Yeah, yeah, I’m doing this.

You know what? I’m going to love myself no matter what. If I fuck this shit up, I know I’m going to figure it out. Like having that kind of trust. Do you trust yourself? That’s step one. Ask the question and be honest. You know what? It could be helpful here. On a scale of one to 10, where is your trust in yourself And there’s no judgment.

If you’re at a straight up two, own your two baby. Like and trust. This is an opportunity for you to trust yourself in ranking at a two. Okay? If you’re at an eight, great. Okay. What’s it gonna take to get to a 10? Because life is short. You gotta be living at a 10 baby. So ask the question, do you trust yourself?

Step two, do one thing. this week to build trust in you. Here’s how this might look. Allow yourself to follow your instinct when it comes to making a decision. No second guessing, hemming or hawing. Just trust your instinct and go take a stand ahead of time that no matter what the outcome is that you did the best that you could with the info that you had and that the love for yourself is not conditioned on the fucking outcome.

Trust yourself with the choice of salad or sandwich for lunch, okay? You don’t have to pick, like, the biggest thing that’s on your plate in your life, okay? Start with something small if that feels really good. Like, if your trust in yourself is fucking shaky, this is not the time to be like, Okay, you know, am I really gonna get to go with Bitcoin or Doge or whatever shit, you know?

Trust that the shoes you picked are fucking fire! Trust! That what you need to tell your partner is important and worth sharing. Trust that when you know you need help, you need help, and you’re gonna get it. Trust your choices. Trust is cultivated by action. Quit playing chicken with trust in yourself.

Quit holding this trust and love for yourself hostage. Do the fucking thing, mama. Trust yourself this week. And step three, text the link to this podcast episode to someone you think could benefit from it. Screenshot this episode, put it in your Facebook or Insta story tagging me. Share the shit out of this.

And while you’re at it, take a moment to give us a five star review. It will make you feel so good to show your gratitude for this free content my team and I serve you with every week. Woman. Remember, thoughts, beliefs, actions, results. Your mama making success begins with what you’ve got going on upstairs between your ears, mama.

What if you trusted yourself? What if you trusted yourself on this journey like never before? How might that propel you to new and better results? Mindset on this journey is a skill set. And part of that is trust in yourself. Learning how to do this is surprisingly simple and repeatable. Think about it.

Where could you be 12 months from now? What you do now, mama, could lead to your due date in 2022. My Fearlessly Fertile Method program is for women who intend to get pregnant in the next 12 months and say hell yes to covering their bases. Mind and body. So you don’t have to look back on this time in your life with regret.

I work with women who are committed to success. To apply for an interview for this program, go to my website, www.FromMaybeToBaby.com, and apply for an interview there. My methodologies help women around the world make their mom dreams come true. Their results speak for themselves. If you don’t have a mindset for success on this journey, baby, you got a gaping hole in your strategy.

Let’s fix that shit and set you up for success. Till next time, change your mindset, change your results. Love this episode of the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast? Subscribe now and leave an awesome review. Remember, the desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you. When it comes to your dreams, keep saying hell yes.

Rosanne offers a variety of programs to help you on your fertility journey — from Self-study, to Live, to Private Coaching.