EP38 Why “Knowing” Isn’t Enough

Do you “know” what you need to do on this journey, but struggle to actually DO it? Learn what’s getting in the way, the #1 thing you can do to get out of that miserable rut, and WHY doing something about it NOW is critical.

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Hey, gorgeous. If you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve got to have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, Fertility Mindset Master. Former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist, I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43, despite years of fertility treatment failure.

I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine, bad assery, and loads of hell. Yes. For your fertility journey, it’s time to get fearless, baby fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this.

Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, episode 38. Why knowing isn’t enough. Hey my darlings, before we get into the meat of this week’s episode, I wanted to share something really special. It’s a text message I got from one of my ladies in my Fearlessly Fertile Method program. I love her! Her name is Caroline and she is a smart as fuck physician.

I told you my ladies are high achieving badasses. Well, this lovely lady loved herself and her dream enough to demand a killer career and her baby. And that’s exactly what she got. In fact, she got pregnant even before she was done with my eight week program. And Caroline’s story is an inspiring one because she was reeling from a miscarriage and was preparing for another transfer.

And this time, she wanted to cover her bases by having her mindset, peace, and place. She wanted to feel confident in herself and her body. That the two of them could work together, that they could do this, they could bring this baby home. And from the moment that she and I spoke during her interview for my program, I knew she was all in.

Caroline learned how to think, believe, and take action like a woman who succeeds on this journey. She was already successful in her professional life. She understood that succeeding on this journey was a completely different skill set. Caroline applied what she learned and the results speak for themselves.

Caroline made a decision, learned how to change her thoughts and beliefs, did the work, and became the woman who succeeded. Caroline learned how to trust herself, her body, and the truth in her heart. And now, she is well into her healthy pregnancy. And this is her text to me. Hey lady, I’ve been meaning to send you an email.

I just wanted to say thanks so much for the work you do. I came across your book and podcast when I was honestly at a breaking point, and working with you and your program has made such a difference in my daily life. I’m doing so much better than I was. I feel whole again. People who didn’t even know what was going on have commented that they notice a change.

And I’m convinced this is what allowed our little baby to come to us. Whereas before, I definitely thought I couldn’t feel whole until I got pregnant. This program has been such a blessing in my life, and I’m so grateful to you. And to that, I say thank you, Caroline. Thank you for inviting me into your journey.

And loves, I’m sharing this with you not only to celebrate Dr. Caroline’s incredible success, because I am so jacked about how much women can have an impact on their journey, how much your thoughts and beliefs can have an impact, and how much power you have to turn the tide on this journey. And Caroline is a prime example of what I’m going to be teaching you this week.

And it is simply this, knowing isn’t enough. Knowing what to do on this journey isn’t enough. You must do. Knowing isn’t doing. Education isn’t execution. Think about it. How many times have you told yourself, you know what I teach makes sense, and that you know there’s power in this quote unquote mindset thing?

You’ve heard so many stories here of how powerful women become when they harness this foundational piece of the fertility puzzle. You’ve also heard world renowned experts here talking about the impact of your thoughts and beliefs on healing. Like my hero, Dr. Bernie Siegel, and last week’s guest, Ben Schwartz, who shared that studies have shown the mind plays a minimum of a 30 percent role in positive outcomes.

There should be no question about how much power you have here, loves. You know this. The question is, what are you doing about it? You can know this shit all day, but if you aren’t learning how to apply it in your life and then executing on it, how can you expect to create different results? This is why you might read an inspiring book, I know a really good one, or you’ll read a heartwarming Instagram post and feel good for five minutes, but you can’t sustain it.

Then, the spin cycle starts and you find yourself on this emotional rollercoaster feeling good for a day, then going back to being triggered by pregnancy announcements and telling yourself this mindset shit doesn’t work. So, what stops us from doing what we know to do? Plain and simple, fear. The craziest, most heartbreaking thing ever is that fear is just fucking made up.

And frankly, the fear that keeps you from doing what you know to do probably isn’t even yours. It is the fear of your parents, your friends, your doctor, what other people think, what you tell yourself will happen if you take leaps, you name it. It’s made up. Yes, has terrible shit happened in the past that may inform that fear?

Of course. But you have to ask yourself if you’re going to let that dictate your future. I bet you’ve told yourself countless times that you have to do something different. But you’re so afraid of what will happen that you don’t. You face that fear and give yourself the chance to create new results by fucking doing, love!

How about instead of being afraid of what will happen, you got excited by what can happen, and you just fucking do it. Action is what creates the momentum we desire. Yes, you will fuck up in the process. Expect it, but do it anyway. Doing gives you a new body of evidence upon which you can create a new set of beliefs.

New evidence of what’s possible for you, rather than chasing your tail and rehashing the same results you’ve always gotten. Law school didn’t teach me shit about being a lawyer. It was only when I started doing lawyer shit that I actually became a lawyer. I know for a fact Dr. Caroline would tell you that medical school didn’t make her a doctor.

Doing doctor shit? Serving her patients? That is what made her a doctor. Caroline could have kept doing what she had always done. But she was smart enough to see that if she wanted a different result, she had to do things differently. And when it came to her dream of being a mom, she wasn’t gonna fuck around with wishing and hoping.

She took action. She opened her heart, got the education, and executed. Her life has changed because of it. My darling woman. With less than 40 something days left in the year. Learn and do what successful women do on this journey. Success leaves clues. Do. Knowing isn’t enough. The most powerful resource you have on this journey, put it to work.

That’s your fucking mind. The time to set yourself up for success is now, education and execution, okay? We only have less than 40 something days left until 2020. What you do now is setting the wheels in motion for your success. Are you going to keep doing the same old thing or are you going to educate yourself so you can execute on the things that are going to make your success certain?

The choice is yours. And love, be honest with yourself. If you are being lazy and not doing, just call it out. You don’t have to be mean about it, call it out from a place of love and commitment to your dream, okay? And look, if you aren’t up for doing, be honest with yourself about that, and accept the consequences.

But don’t tell yourself you’re doing when you’re not. That’s hamster wheel bullshit, and you know you’re better than that. So really play with this idea, my love. Knowing isn’t enough. If you want education from me about how to think like a woman who succeeds and you want the coaching and accountability that will help you do like never before, then let’s get this going, love.

Look at how quickly Caroline changed the trajectory of her journey. Obviously, the combination of education and coaching my ladies are getting is helping them create mind blowing results. My Fearlessly Fertile Method program is about helping you crush the blocks between you and your baby. I work with women who are so committed to being a mom they aren’t going to let shit get in their way, not even themselves.

They are more committed to being a mom than they are committed to their fear. They want to cover their bases because there is nothing that scares them more than regret. Because that’s actually the shit that should scare you. Decide that you’re not just gonna know, my darling. Decide that you are going to do.

And this program is for women who intend to get pregnant in the next 12 months. To apply for your interview to be part of this revolutionary program, go to my website, www.FromMaybeToBaby.com, and apply for your breakthrough session there. My methodology is to help women around the world make their mom dreams come true.

If you don’t have a mindset for success on this journey, love, you’ve got a gaping hole in your strategy. And let’s fix that shit. Only a few spots remain for 2019. Till next time, my love. Change your mindset. Change your results. Love this episode of The Fearlessly Fertile Podcast. Subscribe now and leave an awesome review.

Remember the desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you. When it comes to your dreams, keep saying hell yes.

Rosanne offers a variety of programs to help you on your fertility journey — from Self-study, to Live, to Private Coaching.