EP42 Don’t Let These Lovable Heroes Go Unsung

Everyone talks about the unconditional love they look forward to having when their babies get here, but are you entertaining self-sabotaging beliefs about LOVE that will stop you from ever fully receiving it? Learn how the way we “size up” the loves in our lives can rob us of the love we want most.

Hey, gorgeous. If you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve got to have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, Fertility Mindset Master. Former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist, I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43, despite years of fertility treatment failure.

I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine, bad assery, and loads of hell. Yes. For your fertility journey, it’s time to get fearless, baby fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, episode 42.

Don’t let these lovable heroes go unsung. Loves, I’m so delighted to be here with you this week, and before we get to the topic at hand, I really wanted to share something with you, because I know I tell you all the time that I get emails, text messages, Direct messages, all kinds of women reaching out from all over the world.

And I know you’ve heard me say that the whole reason why I do this is to serve women on this journey who are ready to be with this material, who are ready to get beyond fear, negativity, doubt, and all of that good stuff. But I got an email from a woman that’s part of my larger community last week. And.

It really just made my heart sing at a time when I needed it most, and I got this wonderful message from a woman named Cam. Here’s what she said. Roseanne, I just want to tell you how much I love you and the work that you do. I’ve been following you for quite some time. I have read your book and listened to all of your podcasts.

Just as I was thinking about getting some coaching I found out that I’m pregnant. Yes after three long years We were finally successful on our second IUI. Although I am NOT directly one of your girls Indirectly I am as you have helped me tremendously Using your approach and lessons from your book and podcasts I know it was a game changer for me, which ultimately resulted in me finally getting that positive.

I want to thank you from the deepest part of my heart because you really did help me so much on my journey. Thank you for all the wonderful work that you do. I’m sharing Cam’s message because I really want to drum the message home to you that the desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you.

You’ve got to go after it. It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been doing this, how many times you’ve failed. You’ve got to be the woman that takes these lessons and fucking applies them. Thank you, Cam. Thank you for making me smile that day. Thank you for raising my vibration even higher. By knowing that you unleashed fearlessness within you and that by doing that you help support your success.

So thank you cam and thank you for being an amazing inspiration and a wonderful example to every single woman that’s listening right now. Loves in this week’s podcast. I wanted to share something from my recent experience of loss that I believe may offer some lessons to you as you live your journey.

All too often, we get caught up in focusing on what we don’t have as we live this chapter of our lives, instead of focusing on the abundance and love that is truly all around us. We have a tendency to tell ourselves that until the moment we hold our child in our arms, that no other love can possibly compare.

Embedded in those notions is the tragic, egotistical, and frankly, Neanderthal belief that there’s a hierarchy when it comes to love. I’ve come to understand through my own life, my own journey, spiritual growth, and watching my clients all over the world make their dreams come true, that it’s this idea that certain kinds of love are just better or more real than others.

is exactly what blocks us from the love we desire most. That, which is unconditional. How many times have you told yourself that part of the reason why you want to be a mom is because of the unconditional love you believe you’ll experience when you have them? Think about it. If you’re putting conditions on love and engaging in, in believing that there’s some kind of hierarchy to love, how the fuck are you ever gonna know what unconditional love is?

Right? So right about now, I get you might be thinking to yourself, Whoa, what the fuck is wrong with Roseanne? Is she drunk right now? Has she joined some kind of woo woo cult and lost her edge? Nah. I just recently said goodbye to one of the sweetest souls I have ever had the good fortune of knowing in my lifetime.

My adorable chihuahua fox terrier mix, Tiberius James Austin. A tricolored, slightly pigeon toed, goofy smiled, treat stealing, back at the table, sneaky little fella. He came into my life nearly 11 years ago, when I was in so much need of unconditional love. His greed knew no bounds, nor did his capacity to make me laugh with his toothy grin and his very wiggly butt.

There were many times in the darkest moments of my journey that this little guy and my other chihuahua soulmate, Diego, would lie in bed with me as I nursed the pain of my disappointment and heartbreak. Always there, flashing his big brown eyes at me, I could count on his wagging tail and his left paw digging at me to remind me that I needed to snap out of it because his bowl was empty or he was in desperate need of a cookie.

As I wrote in my book, before Asher arrived, I was mother of chihuahuas and a 3, 000 year old chocolate lab named Jake. The way I spoiled and doted on my animals was legendary, from home cooked veterinary nutritionist designed meals to unfettered access to my bed, much to the dismay of my husband. I remember self righteous assholes telling me on more than one occasion, Those are dogs, not babies.

And thinking to myself, no shit Sherlock, you’re really splitting the atom with that fucking observation. As a devoted animal lover and serial rescuer of dogs, cats, and just about every possible stray animal you can think of. Even a wild boar on one occasion. I come from the perspective that the relationship we have with our animals is one that is exceedingly rich and wonderful preparation for the patience, tenacity, compassion, and pure love that we can have in our relationships with our children.

There’s no question in my mind who rescues who in these scenarios, because each animal taught me and loved me in ways that warms my heart when I reflect on it to this day. This reality leads me invariably to a very simple question. What’s the fucking point of taking an inventory of the love in our lives and denigrating some of it because of some idiotic construct that one is somehow higher than the other?

What if instead of pitting the loves we have in our lives against one another or engaging in some sick and twisted grading system for what love is valuable and what isn’t, we just fucking received it in whatever form we are blessed to have it? fur, wings, barks, meows, or the love we have from the human in our lives.

Quit fucking categorizing it. Receive it, and be grateful for it. Receiving true love isn’t an either or proposition. It’s all about the and. Yes, and. Yes, this dog loves me, even on my worst days, and it makes me so fucking happy. Yes, this cat is a selfish bastard and pukes all like an exorcist all over my house, but she loves me like crazy, and it makes my heart sing.

Yes, the kids in my life right now are not my own, but the love they give me and the fun we have is so priceless, and I receive it with all my heart. Yes, my friends and family are not my children, but the way they love me is grand, and I am so grateful for it. Yes, I have many different kinds of love in my life, and because I’m a smart Badass, grateful bitch who has the guts to make her own rules on this journey, I receive all the love given to me with an open heart.

Now, I’m sharing that with you because it’s really easy to get into the habit of staving off real love, telling ourselves that we won’t know it until we hold our babies, or that anything else is fucking less than. I am raging at you right now because I don’t want you to make that mistake. Don’t do that to yourself.

Just imagine what your journey would feel like if you allowed yourself to receive this kind of love right now, my darling. Think about how that might change some shit up for you. Don’t block the love that feeds your soul and nurtures your heart and keeps you putting one foot in front of the other just cause that might look a little different, okay?

Just saying. The people and beings who truly love you are heroes. Don’t let them go unsung, and for the love of all things holy, don’t fucking block them. Let yourself receive all of the love that you possibly can in this life with an open fucking heart. Kiss those fur babies. Hug on your nieces and your nephews and all of the children that you are blessed to have in your life.

Tell the people in your life how much you love them and what a difference they make. Don’t be the sad, ignorant bitch that can’t see the truth all around her, that she has love in her life, and the more she lets it in, the brighter she shines like a beacon waving that baby that she wants with all of her heart straight home.

If you listen to this and in your heart you wish you knew how to think like this and would appreciate living your journey from a place of love, light, and some goddamn overdue joy, I can teach you exactly how to do that, love. It’s powerful medicine. My Fearlessly Fertile Method program is revolutionary and is for women who intend to get pregnant in the next 12 months.

And women who say hell yes to covering their bases, mind and body. I work with women who know what they want and execute, not make excuses. If that’s you to apply for your interview, go to my website, www.FromMaybeToBaby.com and apply for time with me there. My methodology has helped women around the world make their dreams come true.

Their results speak for themselves. If you don’t have a mindset for success on this journey, love, you’ve got a gaping hole in your strategy. Let’s fix that shit and set you up for making 2020 your best year ever. Till next time, change your mindset, change your results. Love this episode of the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast?

Subscribe now and leave an awesome review. Remember, the desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you. When it comes to your dreams, keep saying hell yes.

Rosanne offers a variety of programs to help you on your fertility journey — from Self-study, to Live, to Private Coaching.