EP91 Fearless Femme: Holiday Rescue 911 for 2020 (For Mindset Emergencies)

“Break glass” if you find yourself circling the drain of a Saboteur attack! In this episode, I will share 5 no-fail, universal, TRUTHS that will help pull you out of a tailspin of negativity in the exact moment you need it. The cherry on top? I will lead you through one of my favorite meditations for connecting with the FACT that the good you desire is coming!

Transcript:
Hey gorgeous, if you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve got to have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, Fertility Mindset Master. Former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist.

I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43, despite years of fertility treatment failure. I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey, just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine badassery, and loads of hell yes for your fertility journey.

It’s time to get fearless baby, fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, Episode 91, Holiday Rescue 911 for 2020. Hey, loves, it is so good to be with you again this week, and I wanted to create something very special for you. I know that this time of year, many of you are traveling or preparing to be with friends and family, and I wanted to give you something that can bring in some sanity when it is needed.

Because I know this time of year, you know, we talked last episode about getting in front of the holidays and really creating your holiday prep. Well, this is game time, baby. The ball is on the field and you are knee deep in it. So I wanted to give you something to provide a respite amongst the crazy, whether you are just going to be hosting something small at home, or if it’s just you and your partner.

Sitting in front of the TV. I don’t know how you do your thing, but chances are, there’s going to be something that probably sneak up for you. So I want to give you something that is going to help you get grounded and centered, you know, as a grown ass woman, you don’t need us, no flakes, safe space. But what you do need is a reminder that what’s going on for you right now, it’s not going to be forever.

Right. All of this crazy insanity that might be going on in your life, the uncertainty of where you’re headed on this journey. Maybe you’re coming off of a cycle that didn’t quite work out the way you wanted to. So what we’re going to be doing over the course of the next few minutes is really giving you something to sink your teeth into to really keep you.

On track, regardless of what’s happened in the past, regardless of whether or not you’re listening to this cowering in some corner, clutching a glass of Pinot Noir because Aunt Martha started her shit up again, right? So whatever the case may be, the next few minutes are just going to be a gift to you. So buckle up buttercup and we’re going to get started.

I want to begin by directing your attention to five really important points to remember. Like if you’re living a shit show right now, you’re going to want to keep these five things in your back pocket. One, this pain, annoyance, or misery that you’re experiencing right now Won’t last forever. Plain and simple the pain annoyance or misery that you’re feeling right now, whether, as I said, you’re, you’re in some dark corner somewhere at aunt Martha’s house, clutching your glass of Pinot Noir or tucking into some custard that you should have probably left alone a half an hour ago.

Whatever the case may be, you must know that in no uncertain terms, it won’t last forever. You are the ultimate arbiter of your feelings. You are not out of control of your mind. Your mind obeys you, my love, and you choose when that pain ends. So you have the final say, okay, this shit is not going to last forever and you get to tell it to fuck off when you’re ready.

That’s the first point. The second point that I want you to remember is you are exactly where you are meant to be. You’re not behind, you’re not lagging, and you haven’t been left behind by the stork as it leaves to baby town. Stay in your lane, my darling. You’re exactly where you’re meant to be. Okay? Own it, rock it out.

You may not like it right now, but you gotta trust that where you’re at is exactly perfect for you. Nothing compares to you. Just focus on you. Focus on your life. Everything else that’s going on around you, it might tempt you to think that, you know, you’re all fucked up. Uh uh. Uh uh. You are in this particular place because you’re being invited.

To grow. Okay, that’s what we do as human beings. We are here for expansion. We are here to learn. I know that this may be the most annoying fucking class you’ve ever been in, and you wish that you could have cancelled before the semester started, withdrawn, whatever. But hey. This is where you’re at and it’s not going to get you where you want to go any faster to begrudge this thing or to bitch about it.

Yeah. Just use this time strategically and know that even though it sucks at this moment or that you can’t quite get your head around it, it’s perfectly fine. You are exactly where you are meant to be. My love. The third thing that I want you to keep in mind is you. are loved. You are loved. Even if you don’t love yourself right now, you are loved.

And we shall hold this truth as self evident, just like the founding fathers say. And you know what? Just take a second right now as we’re talking about it. Like you might not quite be in the mood, but I’m going to love you enough to push your ass just for a moment. Let yourself feel some love. Like, what can you say about yourself in this moment that you love?

Hey, maybe you had like a kick ass manicure and your hands are looking particularly pretty or maybe you were responsible for the pumpkin pie at the family gathering that you’re fleeing right now or whatever it is, like, just think of one thing right now that you can love about you. Just one. And you have to understand that we are our own worst critics.

This is not rocket science, right? We are so harsh on ourselves. And if you can find one thing to love about yourself, you have to know that the people around you can think of 10, 000 things that they love about you. So you are loved and you just might not see it. So it all begins with you. Pick one thing that you can love about yourself and then 10 X that knowing that the people around you, the people who love you, they’ll be able to rattle off 10, 000 things about you that are lovable and you just might not be able to see it.

So suck it up, mama. You are loved. And the fourth thing that I want you to keep in mind, especially right now, is what other people think is utterly fucking irrelevant. Objection relevance, your honor. That’s what I used to say in the courtroom all the time if I thought something was fucking irrelevant.

And frankly, I wish I had said objection relevance more often in the courtroom, particularly when it came to me being worried about what other people think. So I’m passing on a little bit of courtroom. Wherewithal and knowledge onto you, because look, whenever somebody is laying down their opinion on you, you know what, bottom line, it just doesn’t fucking matter.

It doesn’t matter, like not in the end. And frankly, not ever. So just keep in mind if you have to borrow that little, uh, objection, objection relevance, you know, keep that in your back pocket. And if somebody is commenting on you and your partner and what you guys are up to on this journey, just. You know, I mean, you can say it quietly to yourself.

Objection relevance. This shit is not relevant to my life. Or if you want to be super gangster and fearless, just say objection relevance. You might throw somebody off by doing that. But you know what? You and I will be spiritually high fiving because it’s probably been long overdue that they hear that exact objection.

So what other people think my love is irrelevant. You are on a mission. Okay. That’s the other thing about that. One point that I want you to keep in mind is look, you know what? This isn’t a hobby for you being a mom, being on this journey. This is not just some like weekend ceramics class that you just decided out of nowhere to pick up.

This is part of your life’s purpose. So you got to treat it that way. And you got to keep that in mind. Even in your darkest moments, you are living your purpose. This is part of that desire in your heart to be a mom. I mean, baby, it’s there because it was meant for you and you got to hold fast to that.

And even if people are raining down hate on you, you just got to bust open your faith umbrella, open it up and let that bullshit roll right off of you. And the fifth and final point that I want you to keep in your back pocket is this, Gus has got you, boo. Gus has got you, boo. Gus never fails. I gotta tell you, love, I mean, being a miracle mama myself, like, I, I, and, and seeing my ladies all over the world pull rabbits out of hats and do the craziest shit.

You’ve heard some of them on this podcast, not even all of them, yet. So, you know, you’ve got to know that women are doing it, man. I mean, we are doing it and, and we’re beating odds every single day, but you got to think like someone who does. So a lot of that is going to come down to you building your mind and, and really feeling that also with a critical component that Gus has got you, boo.

Gus never fails. What’s coming for you, my darling woman is 10, 000 times better than you can even imagine. So if faith in this moment is something that you’re struggling with, you got to make the commitment that you’re going to build it up. But even if your faith is not there yet, just keep this very simple thing in your back pocket.

Gus has got you boo. Now, just to give you a review, the five points that I want you to remember, this pain, annoyance, and misery that you’re experiencing right now won’t last forever. Two, you are exactly where you are meant to be. You’re not behind, lagging, or left behind. Okay? Third, you are loved, my darling.

You are loved. Point number four, what other people think is utterly irrelevant. Objection, relevance. And fifth, Gus has got you boo. Okay. So I hope your soul is singing right now by keeping those five points in mind. And the last thing that we’re going to do is I’m going to read you a meditation. One of my favorite meditations from U.

S. Anderson’s Three Magic Words. So I’m going to keep this super short. I, you know, just in case you’re escaping and you’re listening to this shit in the bathroom, uh, or drinking alone somewhere while the rest of the family is fucking playing canasta or whatever shit’s going on and you’re trying to escape.

So just like Gus has got you, boo, I got you too. So let’s give you some peace. Let’s give you a respite from the craziness. So what I want you to do right now. is just get quiet. No levitation is required, but I want to at least have your undivided attention for the next few moments as we do the second meditation from U.

S. Anderson’s three magic words. So wherever you are, just take a deep breath in

and let it out. Maybe feel your butt cheeks on the, uh, On the bathroom floor if you’re hiding out in a bathroom or you know, maybe you’re sitting on somebody’s bed because you pretended like you needed to get something from your purse in the guest room or whatever it is. And just be in this moment, just know that thousands and thousands and thousands of women all over the world are connecting with you right now who are also escaping their own family, uh, holiday tragedy, um, or whatever it is, a moment of stress, um, because this, this episode is for you to use whenever you need it.

Remember holiday nine one, one, uh, rescuing you in the moment and 2020 has been a doozy. So you might use this more than once. But just be in this moment, take another deep breath in,

and here’s the meditation. I know and recognize my oneness with all things. I know that all form and all circumstance are the creation of an infinite intelligence that is in and around me. I know that all things are the result of conception and desire, that my world is ordered according to my own thoughts.

and convictions. Therefore, I concentrate on harmony. I see nothing but order and constructiveness all about me. I do not accept thoughts of destructiveness and disharmony in my friends, my loved ones, my fellow workers, I see nothing but cooperation and assistance. I know that we all seek the same answers and the same goals.

I know that each person must follow a different path toward his vision. And I understand the searchings and the copings of everyone I know and see. I have sympathy and tolerance. For all things and all people, I know that in as much as I help others, I help myself. In my brother’s eye, there is my own soul.

In my friend’s smile, there is my own humor. In my neighbor’s sorrow, there is my own loss. I have compassion and understanding for all things. For this life in which I have, my being strives for understanding of itself. I deny error, it is simply progress toward truth. I know that it is impossible to fail when faith is present.

I do not order things to be made in my time or in my place. But trust the universal mind in its own great knowledge of the time and the place and the need and the way each moment of each day brings my life closer to realization. The objects of my work are being accomplished this very minute, success and harmony, peace and confidence are mine.

And just let these beautiful thoughts move around your mind, my love. There is so much truth in them, so much love, so much wisdom. So just let these ideas sit with you for just a moment and let a feeling of love just wash over you. You are loved and there’s so much in you that’s so worthy and such a delight.

You’re living your purpose. You’re one of the very few people in the world who has the guts to really go for it. That’s who you really are. You’re a woman with big dreams, big desires. Just fucking accept it, mama. You are meant to live a very big, bold, and wildly satisfying life. So just take that in, breathe in all of that goodness, and let it out.

And now, it’s time to get back into your life. Leave the bathroom, or the guest room, or wherever you’re hiding, or maybe you ran out to your car, and just Keep these five things. These five points that I raised with you. Keep them in your back pocket. These are universal truths You can’t get around it. No matter how hard your saboteur is going to work Just give it the finger and get back and go and enjoy So that’s what I have for you this week my loves and just remember You still have time to change the trajectory of your fertility journey.

You have time because what you’re doing right now is going to help you set yourself up for success in 2021. You can live your journey like a woman who knows that this desire in her heart is there because it was meant for her and she ain’t gonna let shit get in her way. My fearlessly fertile method program is for women who intend to get pregnant in the next 12 months and say, hell yes, to covering their bases, mind and body.

So you don’t have to look back on this time in your life with regret. I work with women who are committed to success. To apply for your interview for this revolutionary program, go to my website, www.FromMaybeToBaby.com and apply for an interview there. My methodologies help women around the world make their mom dreams come true.

Their results speak for themselves. If you don’t have a mindset for success on this journey, love, you got a gaping hole in your strategy. You gonna tolerate? Let’s fix that shit and set you up for success. It is time, mama. Time to get off the fence and time to get to work. Till next time, change your mindset.

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