EP97 2021: Hello, Lover!

Happy New  Year, Doll! It’s time to get down to brass tacks about what YOU are going to create this year on your journey. Not only am I going to teach you a simple move for making this 10,000x better than any otherwise lame goal setting exercise, I’m going to show you what’s needed for making it 70% more likely that you will actually accomplish what you set out to do!

Hey gorgeous, if you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve got to have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, Fertility Mindset Master. Former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist.

I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43 despite years of fertility treatment failure. I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey. Just like I did get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine badassery, and loads of hell. Yes.

For your fertility journey, it’s time to get fearless, baby, fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, episode 97. 2021. Hello, lover. Hey, loves. I am super excited to be here with you this week as we ring in an entirely new year. Isn’t this exciting? I just love the beginning of the year because this is really when we can think big, dream big, and really get down to brass tacks about what we want to create in the coming year.

And in this episode, that’s exactly what we’re going to do. But I want to take that typical exercise that we do, you know, what do I want this year? What am I going to create? All this stuff. I want to take that to a level about 10, 000 times higher. Because look, it’s really easy, and, and, you know, this is true across the board, it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out that pretty much by February, maybe the first week in February, any resolution that you make is fucked.

It, you know, you’re gonna go strong for like 10 days, maybe 20 days. And after that, it’s going to be like, what, what did I sign up for? What am I doing? So I want to help you do something way smarter than any sort of like resolution or list of goals, because those are actually fairly boring. What I want to help you do is connect at a deeper level to what exactly you want to create this year.

So we’re going to take that typical thing and like, put that shit on blast. So. It’s going to be very atypical for a typical type of thing that people do at the beginning of the year. And because you are part of the Fearlessly Fertile community, here’s the thing. I know that you are going to be doing more than just wishing and hoping.

Any one of my women, especially if you’ve listened to this podcast for long enough, if you have heard all of the insane success That women are creating in their lives and on this journey as a result of doing this work. You realize that this is a tribe of women that come together to not just think big and dream big, but to actually do big, to take big action because that’s actually what’s going to put you in the winner’s circle on this journey.

Wishing and hoping on the sidelines, feeling sorry for yourself and beating your ass up over and over again about what didn’t work in the past is going to keep you stuck exactly there. In the past. And here, I’m going to say it just straight up because I love you. Your baby is not in your past, your baby is present, and in your future you will be holding them.

So they are here in spirit present, but you will be holding them in the future. Now, none of us knows the exact timeline, but it’s fucking irrelevant. It’s not up to us to decide the exact timeline, but it is up to us to decide to be the woman Who’s taking the steps doing the action covering her bases, mind and body to be ready to receive the blessing of that child.

So part of what we’re going to be doing here is incorporating that reality. So the exercise is simple. I’m not going to take up a lot of your time this week because it’s actually more important that you do the work than you hear me walking you through this because it’s fairly simple. Do not overcomplicate this.

And I know I’m talking to lovably type A control, freaky professional women. So the idea of me just simply saying don’t overcomplicate this is probably like me pissing in the wind. So let me just say it again. Do not overcomplicate this because. What we’re going to be engaging here is your creative faculties, and that is something that is deeply feminine.

So, the need that you have to be right, the need that you have to be correct, or the need for you to do this perfectly is you and your masculine. So, just note that. The part of you that’s going to be creative and willing to take leaps, and willing to really go for it here, likely going to be your feminine.

The part of you that’s worried about whether or not you’re doing it right is your masculine. So turn the masculine way down here because this is a truly creative and feminine exercise. And just to tug on you a little bit more, remember that conceiving is all about receiving. And in order for us to receive, we have to be in our feminine mode.

We have to be in our feminine power. Okay. Conceiving is all about receiving. If you want to conceive, you’ve got to be engaged in your feminine. If you want to receive, you’ve got to be engaged in your feminine. Now, if there’s any part of you that’s like, what the fuck Roseanne, what are you talking about?

Go back, listen to the previous episodes on getting, trying to get pregnant like a man and the other discussions that we’ve had about the divine feminine and all this other good stuff. So we’ve got plenty of material there for you and we will be getting into more of it in 2021. So don’t worry. So here’s the exercise.

All you need to do is I want you to get out a piece of paper or a fresh page in your journal, whatever works best for you, get something to write with. And we’re going to start like this. I want you to think about what you really want this year. And I don’t want you to think about whether or not you can have it, how you’re going to get there or anything like that.

I want you to just stop and think, what do I want? This year. And what I want you to do is just take a moment right now and close your eyes. Okay. Now, if you’re driving or operating heavy machinery, don’t fucking do that. Wait till you’re not doing either one of those activities and wait till you’re safe.

But if you are in a place where you can do this, I want you to just Stop and think. And then this is a question that you’re going to answer with your heart, not your brain. Okay, and for some of you out there, if you’re new to this work, or you have not gone through my Fearlessly Fertile Method program, this is going to be like pulling teeth, but that’s fine.

That’s like a huge reason for you to get your application in right now. But let yourself do something revolutionary. Feel the answer. To that question. What do I really want this year? Feel it totally eliminate any consideration you have about the how, how much it’s going to cost all this other crap that’s going to distract you from what you were actually meant to do on this planet.

Okay? And part of that is being a mom. What do you actually want for this year? What do you want for yourself in this year? And I want you to think about this question in a very expansive way, because when you’re writing down what you want to create this year, the things that you want, and all of these ideas that you have floating in your head about what 2021 is going to be about for you, I want you to do something revolutionary, and that’s feel the answer.

What is that? Are you tired of settling for second best? Are you tired of saying, Well, that’s for other people. I can’t afford that. Are you tired of settling for generational excuses that every one of your family members makes and that you make just out of habit? What are you not going to tolerate this year?

What instead do you want to focus on? What do you want? Unapologetically, what do you want to create in 2021? And I want you to trust your gut here, and I know that’s, again, just like, Feeling the answer and not thinking through the answer and answering from your heart for some of you, it’s going to be really difficult, but that’s fine.

You’re going to try to do this anyway. Is take a moment. What do you want? What’s 2021 going to be about for you? And when I said trust your gut just a few minutes ago, I am willing to bet a pair of stilettos that you know exactly what you want. You know exactly what needs to be different. In last week’s episode, we talked about the lessons learned, what was awesome about 2020 and how are you going to use those lessons in 2021 and so.

There is actual reason and logic behind why I do what I do is it’s really a setup for you to get to this place. Feel the answer. What is 2021 going to be about for you? What do you want to create? Take the lid off. Quit worrying about exactly how you’re going to do it, but what do you want? Because when you’re driven by your desire, when you’re driven by what you actually want, not what you think you can get, you are going to have that white hot fire burning inside of you that’s going to keep you putting one foot in front of the other.

Because here’s what you gotta know. The only real thing that we’re battling on this journey truly, truly, and I don’t care what anybody says anyone who has gotten to the other side of their journey and just go back, listen to every single one of those podcast episodes with my ladies. I mean, we just had a miraculous, amazing natural pregnancy from a woman who’s fucking 50.

Okay, so women facing many different challenges, many different circumstances, all different ages, less than 1 percent chances. These women who are taking control of what they think and believe are making masterful transformations on their journey and are making their dreams come true. So any bullshit that’s going on in your head right now, as you’re about to write this out telling you this is stupid.

Or, you do this exercise every year and it doesn’t yield anything. Or, what you really want you can’t have. You have a choice in this moment to keep living that way, or giving yourself the fucking opportunity right here and now. Right now, listening to this one episode that you can change the trajectory of your journey.

And the, the willingness to do it isn’t enough. You’ve got to be a hell fucking yes. I want blank. This is for me. I’m getting mine. Like, you have to have that level of ferocity over being a mom. You gotta have that in your soul. And you’ve gotta be willing to go for that. And that’s not, it’s kind of funny, because you have to know what you want so badly that you’re willing to get extremely uncomfortable.

And it’s crazy because when you know what you know what you know you want and you feel it in your soul, you’re fucking unstoppable. This is why I’m asking you to do this. And what I was starting to say before is that the only thing that we’re really up against on this journey is ourselves. Bottom line is ourselves and the negative bullshit stories that we tell about what we can and can’t do, what we can have and what we can’t have, what our limitations are.

And when you get super sold on your limitations, you’re fucked. Okay, so push all of that aside for just a moment and focus on this exercise. Because If you want success in 2021, you’ve got to master you. You’ve got to take control instead of letting your, your broken down saboteurs as we all do it. Okay.

We all do it, but you’ve got to decide who’s in control. You or your saboteurs. So there’s real power. In, in connecting, what do you want? What’s your soul telling you? Even if other people would fucking laugh at you. Do you have any idea how many people would never believe that this miracle mama that I mentioned on Instagram a couple of weeks ago now, that for you to still hold out the belief that you can do this and that the desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you, even at 50, do you know what that woman had to engage in her life?

Do you know what fire she had to ignite? It is truly extraordinary, and if she can do it, I know she would tell you that you can do it as well. Get to this. Write it out. Answer the question with your heart. Feel the answer. Don’t try to do some fucking math to figure out if that’s actually possible for you.

Fuck that. The only way that it’s going to be possible is if you actually go with what’s in your heart. Cause if you’re just trying to go for what you think you can get, you’re going to get bored. Just like everyone else who sets resolutions for the year, you’re going to drop it in less than 30 days.

There’s like this huge drop off for people who keep their resolutions. This is something far more important than a resolution. This is you making a commitment to your calling in this life. Okay. Resolution comes and goes, fuck that. You know, there’s fad diets. You know, fad exercise routines. This isn’t any of that.

This is your fucking life. Okay. So take a couple minutes, write out what you want to create this year. Feel it, get emotionally attached to what you’re writing. Feel the excitement. And then make a commitment to yourself that you’re going to do this. And it’s true. You may not know how yet, but the how will show up.

You become the woman who commits to what she’s written down, because here’s the deal. Once you it’s a very simple thing to write down what you actually want. But studies have shown that you’re 70 percent more likely to actually accomplish the thing when it is written. See? I love you that much to get you writing shit out.

Okay? Because I want you to be more likely to to I want you I don’t want you to be a basic bitch, okay? There’s so many basic people out there. That will make wild claims about what they want, but they will never accomplish it or they will never even get to the point where they, they get to the first base in that.

So I want you to do better than that. Because look, if it’s truly on your heart to be a mom and you’re facing some crazy shit, you gotta be moving beyond what’s basic. You, you gotta be in it to win it. And you’ve heard me say that before and I’m saying it again because I want you to be successful. So get that written out.

Put it somewhere where you can see it every single day. And let what you wrote fire you up, okay? Watch out for the saboteurs gonna be like, Well, I don’t know how I’m gonna do it. Fuck that. Fuck that. Half the time we don’t know exactly how we’re gonna do anything until we’ve done it. And loves, look, if you are super fired up by what you wrote and you’re like, man, you know, I’m not going to let this year go by without me accomplishing this.

I am finally going to learn how to think like a woman who succeeds on this journey. The time for you to get your application in to be part of my fearlessly fertile method program is now. You got to do it because we are already booking out into February. So get your application in now is the time because my fearlessly fertile method program is for women who intend to get pregnant in the Next 12 months and say hell yes to covering their bases mind and body so they don’t have to look back on it with regret I work with women who are committed to success No poses need apply get fired up by what you wrote baby.

And if you want my help in getting there, let’s do this shit To apply for your interview for this revolutionary program, go to my website, www.FromMaybeToBaby.com and apply for an interview there. My methodologies help women around the world make their mom dreams come true. Their results speak for themselves.

And if you don’t have a mindset for success on this journey, baby, you’ve got a gaping hole in your strategy. Let’s fix that shit and set you up for success. Till next time, change your mindset, change your results. Love this episode of the Fearlessly Fertile podcast? Subscribe now and leave an awesome review.

Remember, the desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you. When it comes to your dreams, keep saying hell yes.

Rosanne offers a variety of programs to help you on your fertility journey — from Self-study, to Live, to Private Coaching.