How different would a day on your journey be if you celebrated failure?
I know this question may make you want to throw a shoe at me, but the hard won wisdom within it is why I'm willing to take the risk.
We are conditioned to have so much negativity and fear around failure that it is difficult, especially in the moment, to see any good associated with it.
As a recovering hardcore perfectionist, the slightest failure in my life used to send me into shame.
To make things worse, the failures I suffered with my fertility were nothing short of catastrophic.
I failed more times than I succeeded.
84 times roughly.
But, I can tell you without question, at 43 years old and 34 weeks pregnant, getting my mindset right about failure, put me on a no fail path to my miracle boy.
FACT: Failure is an inherent risk associated with being alive.
FACT: Failure is irrefutable evidence you had the guts to take action.
FACT: Failure has the power to make you more resilient and resourceful, therefore bringing you one step closer to your goal.
GOLDEN TICKET: Celebrate the hell out of each freakin' one because it means you are on the road to victory!
Let failure create CERTAINTY in you that your baby is on the way.
Certainty = less stress = good for your fertility.
My ladies use failure to their advantage.
They know that failure is fleeting and motherhood is eternal, so they keep their eye on the long game... and win.
Decide you will be one of them.
Change your mindset, change your results.
Lots of love,
Intrigued? Here's an exercise to take this to the next level...
Celebrate your "failures."
- Transform your relationship with failure, but making a list of your 5 most epic failures--on this journey.
- For each failure, harvest the good--write out at least 3 good things that came out of each. Ask yourself how each good thing has made you smarter, more resourceful, and therefore moved the needle on your journey. Spend the time here and don't be lazy--the payoff is grand.
- Having found at least 15 good things that have come out of your "failures," make the DECISION where to put your focus. What CERTAINTY can you create for yourself with these things in mind?
- BE the woman who celebrates failure. How badass is that? It may be exactly what puts you on the path to your own miracle. Tired of trying to figure this out on your own and want me to help you get there? Apply here.
Transformation happens in your ACTION. Quit wishing and waiting.
Stretch yourself. Remember, it's about progress, NOT perfection.