This week we are going to talk about time.
Time and the timeline in which our babies come is one of the most gnarly things we fiendishly torment ourselves with on this journey.
The tick-tock of your biological clock probably started off as an excitedly gentle din...until fear and doubt took over and made it the panicked, mournful, wail of an air raid siren.
How often over the past week or month have you tortured yourself with some version of the following lack, scarcity, and fear-based thoughts?
If it doesn't happen this month, it's never going to happen!
I've got to get pregnant before I'm 40, because its all downhill from there!
I'm over 40, the statistics are shitty!
I only have so many chances, it's got to work this time!
If I was going to get pregnant, it would have happened by now!
This is my LAST opportunity!
Why the hell did I wait so long?
Wasting time with thoughts like these is a zero sum game.
Forgive me, but I am going to state the obvious here--because while it is indeed obvious, when you are caught up in fear sometimes you need to be reminded of the obvious:
There is no way to predict HOW or WHEN your baby will come, so quit letting fear and lack set you up like a fool.
You are far too splendid for that!
When you take a moment to really examine the timelines we manufacture in our minds about WHEN our babies "should" come, the fact is, they are entirely arbitrary at best, and fear and lack based at worst.
Do yourself a long overdue favor and let go of the timeline.
Drop it like it's hot! Kiss it goodbye. Surrender it to the divine.
Why hold onto something that is 100% made up anyway?
Ask yourself this question:
Would I reject my miracle baby if he/she came along 2 years from now, instead of 2 months from now?
I didn't think so.
Holding onto a timeline with a Darth Vader death grip indicates a lack of faith.
This week I want you to start focusing on building yours up--faith that is.
There is nothing wrong with having the desire that your baby get here ASAP.(Seriously, I waited for YEARS. I get it!)
Where things go awry is when you let a timeline turn into an albatross.
Don't do that to yourself, your partner, your friends, or anyone else you love.
It will drain you of your love and your light--and when you are calling in a fertility miracle, you need both in abundance.
My ladies know that letting go of the timeline, is NOT giving up.
They understand it is an act of faith, for which they will be richly rewarded...and indeed they are...over and over again!
Decide you will be one of them.
Change your mindset, change your results.
Intrigued? Here's an exercise to take this to the next level...
Let go of your timeline. Here's where to start.
For most of us, when fear has it's hairy hands on the wheel of our fertility journey, the status of our faith goes something like this:
"I'll believe it when I see it."
Totally understandable. As a former prosecutor, I know what it is like to demand facts and evidence in order to have some semblance of faith, but what I am asking you to consider this week is that such line of reasoning, when we are focusing on the miracle of new life, is completely backwards.
Anyone who has held a newborn baby knows when it comes to the wee ones, we are in the realm of the divine! I t has nothing to do with the predictable and the linear. Instead, c ultivate the faith that will allow you to say:
"I will see it when I believe it."
One of my most beloved mentors always says:
"Fear and faith require us to believe in something we can't see. Choose wisely."
Now is the time to take that wisdom to heart and practice it!
Will it happen overnight, for some yes, for others (like me) it will take a little time, but the rewards are undeniable.
Use the following mantra to get you started: I don't exactly WHEN my baby is coming, but I know he/she is on his/her way." Say it about a thousand times. When fear creeps up and tries to pimp slap you with a time line, SHOUT IT. If you put your back into it, you will begin to believe it.
Sometimes there are hidden limiting beliefs that will kick you in the shin every time you try and work this through. If you try this exercise and still can't break through, it's time for us to talk about working together. Apply here.
Transformation happens in your ACTION. Quit wishing and waiting.
Stretch yourself. Remember, it's about progress, NOT perfection.