Would you rather admit to criminal activity than have your friends, family, or co-workers find out you are struggling with fertility?
I know that may sound extreme, but for many women it's not far off. I was one of them!
I would have rather admitted to drug use or gun running before letting people know that I was "failing" at a basic biological process.
I didn't want anyone to think less of me and I certainly didn't want their pity--back then I cared a lot about what people thought about me. Huge waste of time and energy!
No matter how you cut it, the subject of fertility can indeed be complicated and awkward, but what's worse is the shame.
Having wasted so many years of my life scurrying around to appointments under a ridiculously cumbersome cloak of secrecy and pretending like nothing was going on for me, I feel compelled to give it to you straight:
Rosanne, living that way is: BULLSHIT.
Why should any woman feel "less than" because this is a reality in her life?
Who says you have to feel ashamed?
If other people don't get it, so what?
Who needs self-righteous pity?
And frankly, it's no one else's business if you are having kids and the means by which you will have them!
What if instead of feeling ashamed about this chapter of your life, you found a way to revel in it?
To be impressed by your tenacity? Your guts? Your grit?
To see the light and the beauty of the woman you REALLY are?
To fall deeply in love with your body?
To be seen, heard, loved, and appreicated for your TRUTH, not the facade of perfection?
To care more about what YOU think than what anyone else thinks?
Shame and isolation create emotional blocks and stress--neither is doing your fertility any good and you know it.
The shame and isolation reversal comes from understanding that YOU ALONE decide whether your journey is something to be ashamed of or isolated by.
No one else has the power to do this TO you unless YOU let them.
I love you enough to call this out and remind you that you have a choice.
Women who own this part of their lives cultivate confidence and certainty--key ingredients for manifesting miracles.
Change your mindset, change your results.
Lots of love,
Intrigued? Here's an exercise to take this to the next level...
Let go of the shame game.
Are you beating yourself up with someone else's yardstick of success?
If you ran into someone who told you they were struggling with fertility would you judge them the way you judge yourself?
What do YOU really believe?
Ask these questions as a means to free yourself. Keep what's yours and give other people back what belongs to them! If in your heart you aren't ashamed of what's happening for you, DECIDE that you will own this part of your life, shame-free.
If you don't like they way you have been letting other people's standards make you feel small or inadequate, do the work to change it. I'd be happy to help.
Find someone to talk to or become part of a high-vibrational group of unstoppable women!
Transformation happens in your ACTION. Quit wishing and start doing!
Stretch yourself. Remember, it's about progress, NOT perfection.
If this exercise has made a difference in your day, leave a comment and tell me about it. xoxoxo