Can you believe that there are only 26 days left in this year?
With all of the delight, excitement, and celebratory craziness this time of year can bring, there is also a darker side that can slither into our lives and stink up the room...
The fearful uncertainty of being on the eve of a new year...while "still" on this journey.
Love, you might even be asking yourself (with some trepidation) this question:
"Will 2017 be the year that I become the Mom I dream of being?"
Part of you might be asking that question with sparkly-pink excitement at the possibility of the Momness you dream of!
Yet, there is another part of you whose voice might be annoyingly louder and showing you a PowerPoint presentation of all of the pain you have endured so far.
If you want to end your suffering on this journey, there is one thing you must understand...
Pain is one thing.
Suffering is another.
Suffering comes from what you tell yourself or believe ABOUT your pain.
This means if you want to eliminate suffering on your journey, you've got to take an honest inventory of your beliefs and ask yourself how they are contributing to it.
What's it costing you to tell yourself/believe things like:
- You won't be happy until...,
- You should feel guilty for the money you are spending on treatment,
- You should be able to "handle this" on your own without any help,
- This is what you get for wanting a career AND a family,
- This journey is inherently about suffering,
- You are less of a woman because you are struggling with fertility,
- Unless you have a baby in the exact way you imagine, that nothing else will measure up..?
How likely are you to manifest a miracle with that freakin' ruthless pirate crew of self-defeating beliefs running around in that gorgeous head of yours?!
It is undisputed that your beliefs shape your mindset and your mindset will shape your experience and therefore your results.
Pain is an unavoidable fact of life.
But, suffering is a choice.
Choose a mindset that will actually support your fertility!
If you aren't getting the results you want on this journey, it's probably time you consider making a better choice.
Women who do, make the "impossible," a reality. My clients are living proof.
Lots of love,
Intrigued? Here's an exercise to take this to the next level...
Take an inventory of your beliefs about yourself and your journey.
Get out a piece of paper and answer these questions honestly.
What do you honestly tell yourself about your journey and your prospects while on it?
What do you tell yourself about your disappointments?
What do you tell yourself about your worth?
What do you tell yourself about your relationships?
What HELP are you denying yourself by holding on to the ridiculous notion that getting support right now is weak or a luxury?
What new awarenesses do you have as a result of these questions?
You alone decide whether you will suffer through this journey or whether you will turn your pain into your greatest strength.
Flipping that switch can put you on a path to being a Mom, no matter what!
Stretch yourself. Remember, it's about progress, NOT perfection.
Want extra accountability? COMMENT on this blog and tell me how it's going.